During our teenage years I feel like there is a pressure for sex and most of us are either uneducated or very miseducated.
Social media, tv shows, and various other sources spread the idea that most teens are sexually active causing those who aren't to feel late to the "party" (there was no way for me to say that without sounding like a mom LMAO). When in reality, it's not uncommon to maintain your virginity throughout high school. Sex is everywhere. My main commentary is that there's no pressure if you haven't had sex yet, and if you have you are no different than the rest of us.
So many of the people I've talked to have just done it to get it over with. They have felt like they were on some time constraint, trying to lose it before they graduate. Virginity is not a bad thing. Even more, virginity is a social construct. People shouldn't feel forced to do anything; people shouldn't be ridiculed for being active.
We get it, use a condom--even though when I polled my classmates most of them weren't opposed to going in unprotected :/--but what about after? What's normal what's not? How should you feel? Physically you may be okay, but emotionally something different just happened.
There's even a double standard. Why can't a girl be open with her sexuality and interested in different partners, but when a boy does it he's praised. We're too comfortable shaming young women, while encouraging sex for boys. Many boys I know lost their virginities to older girls, when they themselves were as young as 13. That's weirddd. Why don't we talk about that? Boys should know that sex is just as important for them as it is for girls. But once again, boys push and push for sex but once the girl finally gives in they expose them! I- sigh. Society has brainwashed us all.
MY MAIN POINTS ARE:
1. Take your time. There's no rush. The 40 year-old virgin eventually did it. All that matters is making sure that you're comfortable
2. Boys are allowed to be innocent as well; stop shielding young girls from sex, but pushing young boys towards it. Sexual trauma is real.
3. Don't be silly, wrap your willy! STDS are real. Don't be gross.
Once again, be sure to check out Sex Explained on Netflix like I recommended in a previous post.
Okay bye! ~Tell a friend!
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